Patient patient.

This is a not a path I wanted (or would ever wish on anyone) but it one I have to finish, I will finish. And when I finish, my new journey will begin. But waiting for this journey to end, for this chapter of my life to end with that last period pounded into place; is trying my patience.

I started life as a patient individual. I was often praised for my patience. Then somewhere in my trek to self-awareness I began to feel that my patience was a cover for not being as assertive as I needed to be in areas of my life. It soon developed into being impatient with myself and with each new endeavor. Higher education, seemed too long of a wait, so far down the road when I was sick of school by graduation. I wanted to explore life outside what I was familiar with, an adventure! Each adventure just whetted my appetite for the next. I wanted to hurry to the next step because it never came soon enough. My frustration with obtaining a degree was the time line and deciding a major that would please my family. The oddity was it took me nine years, yep nine years to hone in on the BA. I went from taking a year off after high school to travel to the Dominican Republic, as a tutor for a missionary family. I returned home (spiritually stunned) and enrolled in college first as an undecided, then to pre-pharmacy, moved to Michigan (to screw my head and heart back on) there I started working for a chiropractor and trashed my faith in traditional medicine, so I started training to be a youth pastor. When the time for me to take my year as a youth pastor underling-in-training, I knew I had become what I said I would never be: self-righteous. So, I moved back home, decided that I was paying for the next stab at a degree; the choice I had wanted it to be in the first place, Art. I added my soul mate into the equation by my second semester. I received my degree in two and a half years, impatiently tackling new challenges that would enhance my resumé (and skipping some of the enlightening endeavors that may have been more fruitful.) I became impatient with the process of each adventure. I envisioned each and every goal and I wanted to get there as soon as possible. I became the embodiment of far-from-patient.

At age 9, I decided I wanted a non-boring life, I wanted adventure. I am ever reminded of constantly achieving this desire. Whether it be the excitement of my handsome, adoring, high-strung, never-met-a-stranger (or stops talking to that stranger) hubby; or watching my three children discovering the world each in there own individual interpretations; or handling some emergency (work, home or personal) that became so because of poor-planning on my part or some one else’s. I became impatient with a lot of this process. A process that I should have been drinking in and enjoying moment by moment.

Even now with my current predicament I find my self wanting to walk into the Bed, Bath and Beyond, where I happen upon a creepy Christopher Walken with his secret lair containing a remote for my life. I have so wanted to have it and fast-forward past the chemo, impending surgery and my newest discovery that I will have to be an uno-boob chic for a year! Really. Really…Great something else I have to break to my precious girls. The hair loss was easy, now I have to explain removing half my chest! Those words coming out of my surgeons mouth stunned me. I felt my heart and/or head plummet. I had to fight to keep my composer. Where is that damn remote? I want this over. Now.

I make to the car with only a couple of tears escaping. Once in the car, I unfurled the clouds that pelted my cheeks. I called my husband after I thought I had rid myself of all moisture in my tear ducts. I tell him the news, it was not new news to him. He informs me and reminds me that is what the doctor said on our first meeting. I had not heard it in information-overload mode or I had chosen not to except it. Then the hubby asked the why-does-it-sound-like-you-are-about-to-cry question. Because I was crying…again.

Deep breath. Be patient, patient. Urrrrrrrgh.